小北的不老歌

恍若隔世

回国不到三周,在美国的那些日子已然恍若隔世,没有太多留恋,更多的是期待。

大概还在蜜月期,好像除了觉得包括房子在内的各种东西价格比心理价位要高以外,暂时还没有什么不适应的。其实是一个心态问题。已经有好几次被人问:都出国那么长时间了还回来干什么?不知有没有“是不是混不下去了才跑回来”的弦外之音。我想,我在国外还是能混的,也没觉着给那什么什么的丢脸,但会游泳的就一定要一直泡在水里么?

然而南京市敬爱的警察阿姨却不这么认为,非要假定我已经在国外定居,一定要我出示两年前在美国从学生签证转为工作签证的美国移民局文件才给我上户口办身份证。于是,一个中国公民在中国的土地上得出具美国政府的文件才能落户才能拥有自己的中国身份证,也算是奇闻一件。而国家一方面说欢迎留学生回国,但回来以后国家要怀疑你,程序上假定你一定是在国外定居了,非要自己国家的公民来举证没有别的国家的户口,也是非常具讽刺意味的。

回国前萍儿说,以后不能总用国内的短处比国外的长处,应该多反过来想想。深以为然。

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另:如果有朋友遇到过类似情况有办理的经验,请不吝指点一下。

Comments (14)

  1. Jing

    mitbbs上有个海归版,不知道小北去看过问过没有,也不知道你在国内还能不能上mit。如果有任何可以帮忙的,我留了我的email,给我email就成^^

  2. 野草博客

    期待博主以后多讲些国内相当于国外的长处,免得野草现在老是后悔自己生长中国:)

  3. DP

    Not to rain on your parade, but your extended academic and professional experience in America would have shaped your personality and way of thinking to a degree much greater than what you would anticipate. You would certainly find yourself much more American than the Chinese on the street and you probably are more banana-like than you would be willing to admit.

    Being in China, you find yourself still thinking in English on a regular basis, prefer to read WSJ for some western opinions, feel a bit of uneasy with the way relationships and business work in China, and realize that your romanticized view of China is actually created out of distance and imagination.

    Gook luck.

  4. littlenorth

    Jing, 我看过,没听说有这种要求的。

    野草,日后慢慢写吧。先写一个:孩子能和爷爷奶奶玩,老人小孩都开心得很。

    DP: we will see. but by your argument few Chinese students should stay in the US because when they first arrived in the US their personality is shaped by their experience in China and they are much more Chinese than the American on the street and thinking in Chinese and reading Chinese websites and so on so forth (you fill in the blanks) and realize that their romanticized view of the US is actually created out of distance and imagination (which admittedly is applicable to myself). Traditions may be resistant to change, but people are adaptable.

  5. DP

    Well. Once you get a taste of free market economy where government mostly serves as a referee to ensure fair competition among domestic industries as opposed to a direct participant consisting of aristocrats who compete directly in the market with a heavy dose of nepotism, you may really hate the change that you are forced to adapt to.

    Don’t get me wrong. For people with the right blood/connections or business ideas, China presents extraordinary opportunities. For most people, however, it is a big question mark.

  6. littlenorth

    I am not sure if I got the same taste you did. What you tasted as free market economy is in my eyes an under-regulated economic regime driven by corporate interests, political gain, and pure greed, under the nose of a federal government that is competent but severely restricted by a 200-year-old constitution and numerous incompetent state governments incapable of solving their own problems, much less national ones.

  7. jason

    hehe, maybe i’m short-sighted but i dont really understand why the “free market thing” is such a big deal to an ASSOCIATE. to me, it’s just a damn job. the market thing probably matters to partners but the odds of making partner are very small anyway. so whenever i have a choice, i’ll choose to work at somewhere my family enjoys living at.

  8. Zhan

    interesting discussion about market and government regulation.

  9. DP

    Well. What you described as “an under-regulated economic regime driven by corporate interests, political gain, and pure greed, under the nose of a federal government” sounds quite ironic when you look at the housing bubble in China, perpetrated by the elite insiders, reminiscent of Japanese and American housing bubble with orders of magnitude of greater severity. Alas, so much for “giving dignity to our people”

    Jason-it surely does not matter if you are just a paper-pushing document-reviewing associate working for your nice monthly paycheck to buy some property in Hai nan to add some fuel to the bubble.

  10. hi

    DP同学似乎有些过虑了。小北回国作为外所的律师有一个好处,就是他作为一个自由职业者,他本身和所在单位的关系都非常简单,所能感受到的中国不利方面的影响也非常有限,那些贪污腐败吃拿卡要的事情,那些下岗工人和农民工的悲惨遭遇,也基本不会发生在他身上。他只有站在忧国忧民的角度去思考中国的各种问题,才会让自己身心不愉快。如果仅仅关注自己的工作生活,眼不见为净,则也可以过得轻松惬意。这是一个生活态度的问题,不要做愤青就可以了。当然,户口问题和孩子上学的问题,可能会让小北多操心一些,这和美国的身份问题和孩子教育问题是一样的。

    北京是中国法制化程度较高的城市,居民素质也相对高些,安全也有保障,希望小北保持开放的心态,积极融入。

  11. SKC

    As a senior assoicate in US big law (15 years in the U.S. and counting), I am deeply interested in your expereience going home. Please contiune to share, and I wish you and your family the best.

  12. *w*e*q

    腊肉,味道一定不错。。。

    国内规矩比较多是正常的,毕竟国情不同。

  13. qiqi

    我10号来北京,有空的话,来看看妞妞,还有小小南:)

  14. laosu

    一切都有一个转变的过程。慢慢地或许就会愤青起来。我也是这样过来的。但我不知道你们这些归国人士的交际圈子,或许更着眼的是生活,愉快的个人生活,心态比起国人要健康一些。那是好的,要好好保持。:)

    另外,北京其实是一个冷漠的城市,办事情是相当地复杂,越到基层越麻烦。人的整体素质应该是说是高些,但是一般民众远没有你想象的热情、诚恳,面对老北京人的京贫,一般消费场所的服务傲慢,或许还要适应一番。此外,教育、医疗在北京都是比较头疼的事情

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